Why do small things sometimes set off big reactions? Therapist Jackie Pack, LCSW, explains the difference between primary emotions, what we feel first, and secondary emotions, the reactions that often cover them up. In this video: • Everyday examples, from road rage to a forgotten dishwasher, and the deeper feelings underneath. • Why anger is often a safer cover for hurt, fear, or shame, and when anger is a healthy signal on its own. • How couples can pause and ask, "What's really going on for you?" • How trauma, including neglect, shapes the beliefs we hold about ourselves. • The Adaptive Information Processing model, and how old memories can come up "sideways." • A challenge for the week: notice whether your emotions fit the situation. Good for couples, and anyone who wants to understand their reactions with more compassion.